Okay me, listen up:
You can’t change your behavior.
Behavior is the inevitable result of believing a thought. Actions ALWAYS express what one is thinking and believing.
Always.
The only hope I have of a change in behavior is a change in what I’m thinking and believing.
And I can’t change what I’m thinking or believing either.
I can only question what I’m thinking and believing, for the love of truth.
When I question my always-innocent thoughts with total openness and honesty for the love of the truth - whatever the truth may be - my mind will naturally settle on the truth, which is always peaceful and kind (though it may not always appear so when I’m stuck in my story).
When I am shown the truth by my own inner wisdom, the result is peace. Always.
And then my behavior falls right in line with my peaceful understanding. It can’t help it, just as it couldn’t help it falling in line with my stressful understanding.
So when I don’t like my behavior and I want it to change, I don’t try to change my behavior.
I go in search of the truth.
I question what I’m thinking and believing and let the truth lead.
When I do that, all of my behavior serves.