Love doesn’t mean saying “Yes” to everything. Dedication to love means saying “Yes” AND “No.”
The key is where the “No” comes from.
Fear, hate, violence and war say “No” in order to dominate, overpower or control something outside oneself.
Love says “No” in order to stay connected.
Love declines to go to war, it declines to live separated, it declines to recognize division. It declines to fear, to hate, to accuse, to “other,” to attempt to dominate, overpower or control.
Love gives whatever answer allows me to live in love. Whatever answer leaves me free to align with my own true nature, which is perfect, unseparated oneness with what is.
Ideally I would always live in this state. In reality, I struggle from time to time. Sometimes, despite my best efforts, I will fear, hate, accuse, “other,” or seek to dominate, overpower or control. Which is not something to fear, hate, accuse, “other,” dominate, overpower or control. It’s just something to notice - and respond to with love.
Where I struggle - where I see that I would still be tempted to fear, hate, accuse, “other,” dominate, overpower or control - I say “no”…and use the space I give myself to work on staying in love.
In that situation, it’s the most loving answer I can give.
Because obligating myself to say yes when an honest no arises separates me from myself, which always brings me further from love.