All love is reflected.
All the love that looks like it’s coming from another person is just my love, reflected back to me.
So If I want love from others, I just love them. That’s it. That’s all there is to do.
When I shine light on someone, they light up. And that light bounces back on me. They don’t have to do a thing.
Same with love.
But let’s be clear about what love is: It’s not infatuation, obsession, lust, attraction, excitement, approval, endorsement, agreement, adoration, acknowledgment, or submission to another person’s neediness or authority or obligation. It’s the joyful recognition of my oneness with someone, and my expression of that sense of oneness. It’s knowing we’re ONE THING that is already “there” with no need for any fixing or control or improvement (at least any that is not already happening).
When I love truly and honestly, I experience all the love I could ever want. And I’m reminded where all love comes from:
My own loving true nature.
It’s the only way I experience true love.
(And it works every time.)
If I wonder, “Does so-and-so love me?” The answer is, “Yes. As much as I am loving them right now.”
This does not mean that they are “as infatuated with me as I am with them,” or “as obsessed with me as I am with them,” it means I experience “exactly as much true love from them as I am carrying FOR them, right now, in this moment.” That is always the exact amount of love I experience from anyone.
So it’s a great signal for how I am doing: If I am seeking more love from another person than I am getting from them right now, that is a foolproof signal that I am OUT of love with them.
Perhaps I am in fear or judgment or control or arguing with reality. These states are symptoms of a loss of the experience of my own loving true nature, and I am desperately seeking a way back to that experience but innocently confused about where I’ll find it.
My own loving true nature is the only place from which my experience of true love ever comes.
When I just love, I see that there is never a moment that I don’t have all the love I could ever want.