People are just like the weather:
When I try to change them, I’m basically doing a rain dance.
I don’t change the weather. The weather changes itself. And it is always changing.
I don’t change people. People change themselves. And they are always changing.
I just get confused when all my dancing magically coincides with a change and I start to think I made them change. That’s not what happens. The universe just changes to what it’s supposed to be now - regardless of where I focus my efforts. If it’s supposed to rain, it’s going to rain.
If I don’t want to suffer the rain, my only recourse is to decide what I’m going to do with myself.
And when I accept that, I realize that my relationship with the weather - and with people - is entirely in my hands.