“Whatever you do or don’t do is your contribution to reality. Nothing could be easier. Nothing else is required; you can’t do it wrong. The side paths are your judgments about what you’re doing or not doing. It makes life extremely difficult when you call what you’re doing “wrong,” “stupid,” or “unnecessary”—when you belittle it after it has been done. To compare what you’ve done to what you should have done, to think that you need to measure up to some external standard, is a difficult path. What is is always the way it’s supposed to be right now, and it’s always the story of a past. You can argue with the past all you want, and after you’ve come up with the best, most persuasive, most humane reasons in the world that it should have been different, the past is what it is. Learn from the past, by all means, but if you feel any guilt or shame about it, you are just inflicting violence on yourself, and violence doesn’t work. The clear way, the great Way, is to begin now.
“You can’t change the projected world, but you can change mind, the projector. Just notice when things are out of balance. You don’t have to figure it out. There’s a built-in signal that will always let you know: it’s called stress. Your unquestioned thoughts about life lead you to believe that there’s something out of order, and that can never be true. Stress allows you to know when to inquire.”
Byron Katie - A Thousand Names For Joy - ch. 53