Anytime I try to make anyone feel ANY WAY, I am failing them.
And me.
I am living in their business and out of my business. I am doing impossible work and impossible work always fails.
Living in someone else’s business always causes suffering. Always.
I interact lovingly with people because of ME.
I interact with people from a place of alignment with ME.
Because they’re all just me, projected, anyway.
When I think I need to make sure they feel that alignment or understand that alignment, I become misaligned with my true nature and the result of misalignment with my true nature is suffering.
There is no kindness in working to be seen as kind. I am out of kindness when I do that. When I seek to be seen as kind, I’ve abandoned kindness and put it on the other person to be kind to ME by understanding my motives and recognizing them as kind.
I’m asking them to do my job. And it’s a job they can’t do. And that is why I suffer (often, we both do).
When I’m sane, I love people for no other reason than that I love to love them and I leave them to feel exactly the way they do.
And we both benefit.